10 Things I've Learned About Parenting Twins

Today, I'm taking part in Learner Mama's Linky, and putting together a list of ten random things I've learned about parenting. Because I'm a parent of twins, I thought I'd put my own spin on it and look at some of the great things I've learned about being a parent of multiples. Most people see having twins as a major challenge. It could be that I have nothing to compare it to, but I don't think that parenting twins is that much more challenging than being a parent in general! Parenting is tough - but it is also rather wonderful. Having twins is tough - but it is also rather wonderful. I prefer to focus on the wonderful.

If you are a parent of twins you will no doubt have heard the phrases:

'double trouble!' 
'you have your hands full!' 
and
'wow, twins - I don't know how you do it!'

You will no doubt hear these phrases several hundred times, every single time you venture outside your home. You might also notice that these phrases are are usually accompanied by pitying looks and shaking heads.

Little do parents of singletons (that's what we parents of multiples call children of the non-womb-sharing variety) know, that there are multiple (see what I did there!) benefits to having twins besides dressing them up in cute matching outfits- though that's definitely a lot of fun too.


Here are 10 Great Things I've learned about Parenting Twins:
  1. Only having to go through one birth process to get two babies is a pretty good deal.  
  2. Small babies cry a lot and like to be held as much as possible. This means that, in the early days, parents get very little sleep. BUT, baby twins tend to be comforted, not only by their parents, but also by their twin and, because they are together all the time, they enjoy lots of human contact with their womb-mate as well as their parents. In my experience, this means they cry less and as a consequence - parents of twins get more sleep! 
  3. Even though twins can be good sleepers in the early days - as soon as teething kicks in - things can get a little bit...um... exhausting. Dealing with two tiny people teething at the same time, admittedly, isn't much fun. BUT the fact that you'll be getting all the sleepless nights over with in one go is a huge comfort.
  4. Having twins does mean that you have a lot of stuff. Double of  almost everything. But another great thing about twins is that they grow out of everything at the same time. This means you can clear a lot of clutter in one fell swoop!* I finished with the steriliser, baby monitor, bouncers and a ton of other bulky things when the girls turned one. It was great to get all that space back! (*if you don't intend having anymore children, that is - and even if you do you can  still clear at least  half of the stuff!)
  5. There's a question that new mother's often get asked. Often ridiculously soon after having a baby when they are still in a complete baby-daze. 'When are you going again?' What a rude question! Luckily, I never heard it. Because twins are a 'ready made family' no one dared ask me when I was 'going again' because I already 'had my hands full'.
  6. As they grow, twins have a ready-made playmate. This might be true of families with more than one child too, BUT with twins, the playmate is at exactly the same developmental stage. There is no bigger child bossing the younger one around and no smaller child ruining the older one's games. Coming up with activities for twins to do is easier too, because there are no different 'ages and stages' to take into account either.
  7. Double the trouble? Not at all actually. More like 'Double the fun'. Twins are hilarious! They make up their own languages, invent bizarre games that only they understand and are so much fun to witness playing together. There is nothing better than hearing little twins giggling and plotting together.
  8. Hitting milestones can be daunting for children AND their parents. Starting Preschool or big school is a huge deal, BUT it's definitely easier when two children are making these transitions together. You know they have each other's backs and that they already have at least one friend in the classroom. Also, (again, provided you don't have other children) the school run is infinitely easier when you only have to go to one location in the morning!
  9. Only having to host one kids birthday party per year is a pretty good deal.
  10. The most fabulous thing I have learned about having twins is that, that thing about twins having a special bond, is completely true. They have the most amazing bond. It is unlike anything I have ever witnessed.  It is unshakable and completely unique. Imagine starting out in life with someone who 'gets' you. Completely 'gets' you. And accepts you and loves you just exactly as you are. A ready-made best friend and partner in crime for life. Normally, it takes years and years to cultivate a relationship like this. Twins have this from day one. That's pretty special.
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18 comments

  1. Great post and lovely angle for the linky. Thanks so much for taking part even though you must have your hands full ;)

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    1. Thanks Lucy! And thanks for hosting a great linky :)

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  2. Love your list, especially Double the Fun! Enjoy the rest of the weekend :)

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    1. Thanks Ciara! In fairness, sometimes it CAN be double trouble - but MOSTLY it's a lot of fun :)

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  3. Love it - lots of stuff there that I never even thought of - though always envied the one-birth-two-kids bit :)

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    1. Yep, it's a pretty good deal ok! 'Two for the price of one' deals always sucker me in the supermarket - twins is like the ultimate 'two for the price of one' deal ;)

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  4. Ha I love it. A great take on parenting twins.

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  5. You make me wish so much I had twins!! Especially the last bit, that they share a special bond, imagine how incredible it would be to go through life with someone like that. Loved this x

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    1. Aw, thanks Emily :) The bond is definitely the best bit about twins. In all other senses they are just regular kids who happen to have been born on the same day. But the bond is MAGIC.

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  6. My twins cried from birth they wore me out when they start walking yes they were double but one thing Is right theynever needed a sspecial friend the bond they have is unreal even now in there thirties two lovely men I have

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    1. Thanks for commenting! I definitely think I got VERY lucky with my good sleepers and there are absolutely moments of double trouble too! How lovely to hear that the bond continues as strong into adulthood!

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  7. I always felt it would be great to have to babies from the one birth... I was always sick enough anyway that I may as well have been having twins. Unfortunately it wasn't meant to be but sounds like life with twins is amazing!

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    1. You'll totally hate me now, but I never got sick at all during my pregnancy! I don't know how I got so lucky. Life with twins is great - but it can also be pretty tough. For this list I focused on the positive stuff. if I was to list the harder things we could be here all day ;)

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  8. great post!!! i would love twins! but mostly because, I hate being pregnant and i want lots of kids!

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    1. Thanks Louise! Haha! That's as good a reason as any!

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  9. What a lovely post. My mother is a twin and she would totally agree on the bond.

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    1. Thanks :) I love to hear about grown up twins with a strong bond. Further proof that it's an amazing thing!

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